Marriage is a great thing, but why do people get married so young? This was actually normal before. People used to get married very early. They were still teenagers. In the eighteenth and nineteenth century, it was normal that a person who was underage becomes a ‘wife’ or a ‘husband’. Things have changed and today the whole thing with marriage seems to be very different from what it used to be. However, people still set married very young. Why is it so?
There are several reasons. First, young people seem to be more independent than they used to be.
They simply grow up faster and they become financially independent from parents very early. In fact, they start living their own lives very early. If you start working while you are still young, you will also interact with other people and become aware of the world as it really is. You will probably become more mature and self-conscious and this will make you feel like you finally have your own personality – and your own life to decide about. However, young people tend to fell in love easy and they are quite honest and spontaneous when it comes to feelings. This is the most beautiful thing in the world, but generally speaking, they just do not have enough experience to know if it is really love or just passion.
Are Love and Passion Enough?
If you want to get married, you must know that neither love nor passion is enough for a good marriage. To have a good marriage, you need to have much understanding for each other and to be aware of each others’ flaws and bad sides. Do you make a good team together? Is your communication good enough? Do you lie to each other in order to impress one another? Do you really know each others’ expectations, fears, wishes, dreams, past and present? Even if you believe you do, keep in mind that we do not even know ourselves good enough; a human mind is something that can never be known completely. You will probably face certain situations in which you will be surprised by yourself! You cannot even predict your own actions, so do not expect other person to behave just the way you expect her to.
If you are really certain about your decision to get married, your decision has to be based upon facts, not words or promises. Generally, young people tend to see the world in brighter colors and they do not think about the distant future. Well, most of them don’t. All this doesn’t mean that you should not get married. This only means that you have to think well and decide about it like an adult person. Try to find out more about your partner and also about yourself. Before you get married, a good idea would be to live together and see how you get along. If you are really happy and your lives function well together, there is no reason why you should not keep it that way. If you love each other and have plans for your future, they will probably come true. There is no need for rush. Take it easy and enjoy what you have. Love your partner for what he/she is. That way, your love will be crowned with a truly good marriage.