Are you wondering how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break-up? Before we try to answer this question, we have to stop for a second and think about the question itself. Your motives can be different and depend on the circumstances under which the break-up happened. Your ex relationship probably meant a lot to you. However, this question is more complex than it seems.
First of all, did she leave you? On the other hand, were you the one to leave? If she has left you or you simply have had a fight, ask yourself about the reasons of your fights and/or misunderstandings. Did you listen to each other’s needs? Did you pay enough attention to each other? If you believe that you were caring and loving boyfriend, and she left you for no obvious reason – she could just fell in love with someone else. In that case, there is nothing you can do, really. All you can do is to tell her the truth that you love her and you are ready to do your best in order to make her happy. If you know her new boyfriend, you can try to find out what she likes about him and see if you have those virtues. You should do this for yourself, not for her! This way you can learn something more about yourself. Maybe you really lack some attention and thoughtfulness. If she keeps being persistent, do not push her. Just be kind and tell her that you will always be her friend and you will always be there for her. Of course, don’t make any promises you can’t keep. If you say this, be prepared to show it in real life. After some time, she may come back. If she realizes that she still loves you, she may come back. If not, you will just have to move on.
If you were the one to leave, first you should answer to your self why you want her back in the first place. In addition, you should reconsider the reasons why you left her. If you just miss her, this is not enough. The reason why you want her back should be more than just missing. Even if she comes back, you may have the same problems all over again. You need to set things straight and talk to her about the problems that made you leave. Try to solve the problems together and see how it goes. If it still doesn’t work, you will just have to drop it. It is better for both not to waste your energy on crying, isn’t it?
If you feel like you have made a mistake and you are the one to blame for your break-up, you can try to get her back. Your advantage is that you know her. You know what she likes and what she hates. It is simple. Call her and do something nice for her, something you know she will love! Avoid saying things she hates to hear and do not play games. Do not try to convince her that you are so perfect and she has to take you back. This way you will only make her angry and underestimated. Try to remind her of all the good things you had together and all the qualities she has. Make her think about this, too. Nevertheless, whatever you say, your deeds count. You have to do something instead of just talking. Call her and ask her to meet you. Be kind and do not push her. Even if she says “No”, do not push her. Give her time and then try again. If she says “OK”, make a surprise for her and make her feel special. If this doesn’t help you – you will just have to let it go. It can take some time for you to get over the fact that the two of you simply were not made for each other. Keep in mind that you have tried. You did the best you could to work things out. If it didn’t work out, do not lose your faith. Perhaps there is the right person waiting for you!