So you have realized that you made a mistake, (or he did), and now you’re wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back. Well, who made the mistake is quite irrelevant right? Not really. If you want your relationship to work this time, you will have to think about the problems that ruined it. The reason why it was over is the key to getting him back into your life.
Sometimes it takes losing someone to realize how much he means to you. “Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone” (Joni Mitchell, “Big Yellow Taxi”). And we believe in what Joni says. Maybe you were angry and said some things that you shouldn’t have said? It would be great if you could just hit rewind like in an Adam Sandler movie and go back; but, being able to maintain a long term relationship means being able to cope when things go wrong.
We are all humans and if you are spending a lot of time with a guy, eventually you are going to start being yourself in all your glorious humanness. You are going to start saying the wrong things, break his favorite cup or sneeze in his soup. If he can’t get over you being “human” he’s not worth the trouble. But if you were the one who made a big mistake – then you will to have to do the repair work.
How to Get Your Boyfriend Back
Honesty is the best policy, but it can be moderated just a bit. If you have made a mess, here is what you could do. You could add that the only reason you made a mess was that you cared so much about your relationship that you couldn’t think straight.
Now some people use SMS, email or Facebook as appropriate mediums for break up and make up. If you subscribe to this idea, you need to read the first paragraph again. Communication about important things needs to be face to face, in person, no computer or phone involved. Your sincerity and body language cannot be seen unless you are in the same room (webcams don’t count). Be brave. After all, if this is the guy that you want to spend your life with, you should really prefer being in the same room, shouldn’t you?
Now in the situation where your ex has initiated the break up you need to firstly ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship with someone who has crushed you like a bug. Maybe he has misunderstood something you said or did. Maybe he believed a rumor that wasn’t true.
Maybe – if he really cared about you – he would have found out what the truth was before breaking up with you. Think about what chasing him around says about you and how you feel about yourself.
You might try the old “make him jealous by going out with someone else” trick. What does hurting another person suggest about you? You might go with the idea that living well is the best revenge. You could set about showing your ex that you are doing so well that he begs you to take him back. In these scenarios you might get your man back, but have you healed the cause of your original breakup? Once the honeymoon is over, he’ll head out again.
Think about putting yourself first. If he has left you, cry, scream, get angry and then move on. You deserve to be in a good relationship.